Why Soul Mates Don’t Exist But Flings Do

Why Soul Mates Don’t Exist But Flings DoEveryone knows the concept of a soul mate. A soul mate is someone that you are destined to meet. As if the creators of the heaven and earth put you on the planet together to complete each other. Some believe that there is one person out there that is meant to fulfill them. The truth is that there may not be one soul mate, but many, who come into our lives and fulfill us in the ways that our body and soul crave. There may not be such a thing as a soul mate, but there are definitely flings out there that can give to us exactly what we need. If you are worried that you may never find the person who completes you, take heart. These are the reasons why a good fling may be just as good, if not better, than finding your true soul mate.

A fling is something that you don’t have to work at
Even if there is such a thing as a soul mate, that does not mean that living with them is going to be easy. Living with anyone can become tricky. When you have a long term relationship it is something that you need to work at. Even the most “made for each other” couple can find that being together is difficult. The stresses of life, a career and family can take its toll on two people. When you have a fling there is no complication. It is for one thing and one thing only, pure gratification. You don’t have to worry about getting along. A fling is uncomplicated, fun and thrilling.

A fling isn’t someone you have to worry about pleasing
If you find your soul mate and settle down you have to worry about pleasing them. That makes sex more complicated. Instead of worrying about you getting off you have to worry about them. You also have to worry about your sexual performance. That takes a lot of the fun out of having sex with someone. Although being in a steady sexual relationship can have its advantages, sometimes it is not worth it to constantly worry about someone else. A fling is someone who you have sex with and the only one you have to worry about is yourself. If your performance is not all that fantastic, or you don’t worry about their satisfaction, it doesn’t matter. There is no give and take, there is just take.

No baggage
When you settle down with your soul mate it complicates everything. When living with someone it is likely that the day to day resentment and other problems flow into the bedroom. It is hard for couples to separate sex from their relationship overall. That can lead to power plays in the bedroom, or withholding sex. Constant tension can take away from the excitement and thrill of being in a relationship and definitely sex. A fling has no baggage. There is no power play. They don’t resent you and aren’t out to punish you for what you did last week. It is just for fun. Not being in a relationship, sex is just sex, and nothing more. A fling may not be someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, but that means that you don’t have to allow the other problems cloud the pure enjoyment of hooking up.

It doesn’t hurt
When you find your perfect mate you are liable to be hurt by them. That means that the things they say and do can hurt you feelings, even in the bedroom. A fling is not someone who can hurt you. If you don’t care about them as a person there is no room for embarrassment, or any emotional ties at all. It is about just one thing. If you are someone who is afraid of being hurt either by your soul mate, or any mate, a fling is the perfect solution.

There is plenty of time in the future for you to find your soul mate if one exists, and settle down for a lifetime. For now, it is better to focus on a fling and have all the fun you can, while you can. Responsibility is something that has its rewards, but it is better to put it off until you can’t anymore.

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