{"id":79,"date":"2013-10-07T14:05:25","date_gmt":"2013-10-07T14:05:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/flingmanual.com\/?p=79"},"modified":"2019-01-22T16:39:11","modified_gmt":"2019-01-22T16:39:11","slug":"sex-buddies-better-than-soul-mates","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/flingmanual.com\/blog\/sex-buddies-better-than-soul-mates.html","title":{"rendered":"Why Sex Buddies are Better than Soul Mates"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Why-Sex-Buddies-are-Better-than-Soul-Mates\"If you\u2019ve heard that you\u2019re missing out by choosing to have casual sex instead of finding your soul mate<\/a> and settling down for a life of exclusivity, don\u2019t drink the Kool-Aid. Not to disrespect the guys who are into monogamy and long-term relationships, but they might be painting a much rosier picture for you than what actually unfolds in reality. There are a lot of reasons that having sex buddies might be way better for you than a committed relationship with one woman.
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Men are Wired for Variety<\/h3>\n

If there is an exception to this rule, I have yet to meet him. Men are not genetically set up for monogamy. In the beginning, when a guy is all swept up in new relationship energy and the sex is still novel, he might fully believe that not only is he capable of monogamy, he really wants it! Over time, something shifts, though. Ask this same guy how he\u2019s doing on that front a few years later, and you\u2019ll almost always find out that his stance has changed & they want to find a sex buddy for casual sex!<\/span> Chances are higher than not that he will have either already had an affair, he\u2019ll be in the midst of one, or he\u2019ll be contemplating one. If he\u2019s not the sort of guy who can bring himself to cheat he may very well be trying to figure out how to end the relationship. If he\u2019s one of those rare guys who doesn\u2019t cheat and doesn\u2019t leave, he\u2019ll probably be miserable. By staying faithful to his supposed soul mate, not only will he be making himself miserable, his attitude will probably suck so much that he\u2019s making her miserable, too.
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You Don\u2019t Have to Feel Guilty for Your Natural Urges<\/h3>\n

When most men cheat or contemplate cheating, the rush of the thrill is usually overshadowed to some degree by feelings of guilt. It doesn\u2019t feel great to lie to a woman who loves you. With sex buddies<\/span>, neither one of you is under any obligation to remain faithful. This means that you can act on your natural urges to have multiple sexual partners without feeling even a shred of guilt. Depending upon the nature of your fling, you might have a don\u2019t ask, don\u2019t tell policy, where you decide that what the two of you do when you\u2019re apart is none of the other\u2019s concern. Or you might even share your sexual adventures with each other because you both find it titillating. Either way, you\u2019re both free to have as many sexual partners as you want, and no one has to get hurt.
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Sex Buddies Are Simpler<\/h3>\n

When people think about soul mates, they generally think about the good times. What they might not be thinking about is all of the drama that can accompany day to day life when you\u2019re sharing it with another person. With stressors like shared bills, differences in housekeeping standards, and feuds about whose family to visit during the holidays<\/a>, things can get very complicated, very quickly. You usually won\u2019t find much strife or arguing between sex buddies. You see each other for casual sex, and if you otherwise like each other\u2019s personalities, you might choose to get together for a movie or a few beers from time to time. If you see each other at all outside of sex (which is not required), you\u2019ll find that it\u2019s usually as drama free as hanging out with the guys. If you don\u2019t get off on a lot of emotional processing and endless compromises, flings are the way to go.<\/p>\n